Submarining - that is, if an old Date appears suddenly
You wonder about a non-message to an old contact hoping to find a Dating stock market, you are probably a victim of Submarining.
- Submarining is a term used in the Dating world. It is derived from the English word "submarine" for "U-boat".
- The expression describes quite well the behaviour that occurs often in Dating portals: After a long Intermission you receive unexpectedly, a message from an old contact.
- You have of a Dating Partner for a long time nothing heard or read, suspect you might the victim of "Ghost" become to be: No news, no response to your contact - nothing. The Opposite is submerged.
- Now it may be that a "Ghost" appears suddenly again - just like a U-boat.
- The message is usually short and completely inconsequential. A short "Hey" or "How's" - not in the rule.
Submarining is a sad Dating Trend (image: Pixabay)
How is it to Submarining?
- First: people should not assume that the Opposite suddenly became clear, how much he or she missed the victim and what deep feelings he has for it.
- Rather, people should keep in mind that the one who has never had a great interest in the victims. Therefore, he or she terminated the contact.
- A sign of life, comes after months of was the old Dating Partner probably simply boring. When Scrolling through the contacts, the victim is brought back to memory as a kind of stopgap until something more exciting comes up.
- It may be that the contact a short time is a little more intense, but not content full. Then will probably find out if maybe what is going on. Real interest in the Person of the victim should not hope to be.
- How someone reacts to Submarining, depends on whether he or she wants to have contact or not. Is the Affected real interest is not important, he can answer confidently, you should hope he or she but nothing.
- It is better not to respond at all: The U-boat is going to dive again - and the victim should not be a stopgap abuse.
In our series on Dating Trends, we explain also what is behind the Love Bombing is hidden.
